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Funeral flower arrangements explained
By Lindiwe Khumalo · 4 min read · Updated 24 June 2026
If you are sending or arranging flowers, it helps to know the different funeral flower arrangements and what each is for. This page explains wreaths, sprays, bouquets and casket arrangements, and how to choose one in South Africa.
The type you choose often depends on your relationship to the person and the family's wishes. Close family usually provide the larger casket flowers, while friends send a wreath or bouquet.
Below is a simple guide, plus what to do about the card and ordering.
Types of arrangement
| Arrangement | What it is | Usually from |
|---|---|---|
| Casket spray | Flowers laid on top of the casket | Immediate family |
| Wreath | A circular arrangement, symbol of eternal life | Family, friends, groups |
| Standing spray | A large display on a stand beside the casket | Family, organisations |
| Bouquet | A hand-tied bunch | Friends and acquaintances |
| Posy or basket | A smaller arrangement | Friends, sent to the home |
When unsure, a wreath or a simple bouquet of lilies or white roses is always appropriate.
Choosing colours and flowers
- White and soft colours are the most traditional - lilies, white roses, chrysanthemums.
- A favourite colour of the person is a meaningful personal touch.
- Keep it dignified rather than bright or showy.
A local florist can recommend seasonal flowers that look fresh on the day and suit your budget.
Ordering and the card
- Check the family's wishes. Some request "no flowers" and a donation instead - always respect this.
- Order a day or two ahead so the florist can prepare and deliver in time.
- Send to the home, parlour or venue, not the cemetery, to arrive before the service.
- Write a short card message. A line like "With deepest sympathy from [name]" is enough.
Many florists deliver directly to the funeral venue if you give them the details.
When flowers are not the right choice
Flowers are not always appropriate:
- If the family asks for "no flowers" and a donation to a cause instead, respect that.
- Many Jewish and Muslim funerals do not use flowers, so a donation, a meal or a visit is more fitting.
- For a cremation, check whether the family wants flowers at the service or prefers donations.
When unsure, a quiet word with the family or a close friend will tell you what they would welcome most.
Frequently asked questions
What are the different funeral flower arrangements?
Common arrangements are the casket spray (laid on the casket, usually from family), the wreath (a circular symbol of eternal life), the standing spray (a large display on a stand), the bouquet, and smaller posies or baskets sent to the home.
Which funeral flowers should friends send?
Friends usually send a wreath, a standing spray or a simple bouquet, while immediate family provide the casket flowers. When unsure, a wreath or a bouquet of lilies or white roses is always appropriate.
What colour flowers are best for a funeral?
White and soft-coloured flowers are the most traditional - lilies, white roses and chrysanthemums. A favourite colour of the person is also a meaningful personal touch. Keep the overall look dignified rather than bright.
How far ahead should I order funeral flowers?
Order a day or two ahead so the florist can prepare and deliver in time for the service. Send them to the home, parlour or venue rather than the cemetery, aiming for them to arrive before the funeral begins.
Who provides the casket flowers?
The casket spray, the flowers laid on top of the casket, is traditionally provided by the immediate family. Friends and wider relatives usually send wreaths, standing sprays or bouquets to the home, parlour or venue.
